Added: Shealene Tyrrell - Date: 16.12.2021 12:39 - Views: 31316 - Clicks: 1637
In the proudest moment of my quarantine, I built my own bike.
Am I confident enough in the structural integrity of this bike to actually ride it? If I were quarantining with a boyfriend, would I have insisted that he step in to help around hour seven? Meanwhile, romantic cohabitators have ascended into the most heightened form of coupledom. The only two options left are Alone and Together. I worry that the chasm between the singles and the couples is growing too wide to cross. Social media has aggravated the divide.
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Paul who does not live with her partner but sees him regularly.
Read: Friends are breaking up over social distancing. Truthfully, I wanted a boyfriend more before quarantine than I have during it. Actually, those are the only two that come to mind. For those of us lucky enough to be safe at home, quarantine stopped us right in our tracks.
In this game of freeze tag, I got stuck in a kitchenless sublet I intended to live in for only a few months, and I got stuck single. Friendships between singles and couples have always hit snagsand can lead both coupled and single people to have more friends who share their relationship status. Pity for single people is likewise nothing new, but in times of crisis, those who already considered relationships to be objectively better than singlehood might lean more deeply into that belief.
That puts a further strain on friendships, on top of the stresses caused by separation and disagreements over social-distancing best practices.
I am also taken aback by coupled people I know when they say they feel sorry for singles for not having someone to talk to. The problem arises when coupled people assume that all single people are miserable, rather than determining which of their friends actually need their support.
Just as I feel trapped in quarantine, people in complicated, unhappy, or abusive relationships might feel trapped together. Like me, they probably crave the support of their friends, single or not. Where does the laptop go? Read: Why people are confessing their crushes right now. I worry that the gulf between singles and couples will persist when quarantine ends.
I worry a lot. I can set aside these worries, though, and remember that the hardships that singles and couples share—watching death tolls tick up, seeing the people we love falling sick, or worse—probably out the hardships that divide us. Some things will return to the way they were in the Before Times—my friends in relationships will still try to set me up, not out of pity, but to be helpful.
Some things will change—I will offer to fix their bikes, although no one will accept, which is probably for the best. Most of my friends who reach out to me—single or not—do so with a kindness that acknowledges our collective trials. If the worst thing I can say about someone is that they show too much concern, is that really so bad? Hopefully, when this is all over, we will continue speaking to one another with this same compassion, regardless of whom, if anyone, we share our beds with.
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