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Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. To use this feature subscribe to Mumsnet Premium - get first access to new features see fewerand support Mumsnet. I've just found out I'm pregnant. I'm 26 and have been seeing my boyfriend for only 3 months and have just found out I'm pregnant we were v careful so complete surprise. I am going ahead with the pregnancy and hes said he'll support me. Things have been great between us and I really think we would have worked out long term. But I can't see how we are going to keep such a new relationship going with all this to contend with.
Up until now it's all been about fun and spontaneity. I've browsed a few thre and seen there are a few of you who've been in similar situations and have made it work - but how??? I just can't imagine at the moment how we can progress our relationship with such a big thing happening at the same time. Any advice? Success stories only please - I really need positive thoughts at the moment. Also should I have posted this on the pregnancy bit - wasnt quite sure which was more appropriate.
Thank you! I have no experience of this. I just wanted to say congratulations! I was with my ex six years married for three of them before I had our children and we divorced a few years later. What I'm trying to say is - there are no guarantees in life.
Being with your DP a short time doesn't mean it's less likely to work out! Enjoy getting to know each other as you get to know your little one. Who knows where it might lead? Hello you. Just wanted to share our success story. We were 21 and 22 when we discovered less than 3 months in we were pregnant.
Most people predicted disaster for us and can't say I blamed them. We were stony broke and living a life of parties and lots of booze etc etc. But we were very committed to each other and especially our baby. A few blips but generally all very good. Our little boy is now a medical student and other dcs too. It can work. Good luck!!! I was in the same situation with my now DH. We were together 4 months before finding out we were pregnant with DS.
At the time I was worried as you are, we made the most of the time while I was pregnant to really get to know each other and spend time alone together that once DC is born you Pregnant after 3 months dating get. Going through something as amazing and hard work as having a baby creates a huge bond in itself. For us the most important thing was being honest through everything, we both had our wobbles but DH is now my best friend and our DS is amazing. When you need to stay positive just think everything happens for a reason and as already said being together longer has no guarantee on your relationship.
Just want to Pregnant after 3 months dating Congratulations and just go with it. Once you both see your baby everything will be fine. Wishing you the best of luck. My mum and dad Pregnant after 3 months dating 17 and 24 when they met and in less than a year after meeting they had me they are still very happy together 27 years later. No experience either, but I'd say that the best thing to do us keep talking to each other.
Don't hide the fact you're nervous about the future, don't feel you have to fast track everything in your relationship just because there is a baby on the way. It would be worse to move in together too soon and the relationship suffer than wait a bit longer. Congratulations and good luck. Thank you all so much for responding - it is lovely to hear success stories. I suppose a positive way of looking at it is that the situation in itself will help us get to know each other quickly!
I worry though that he is going to be getting to know someone who isn't he real me - I'd worked out exactly how I was going to tell him calmly, rationally, without putting pressure on him when it came to it I just blurted it out and cried I never cry! Maybe it's the hormones or the pressure of the situation but I worry I might scare him off. Also I know this is unimportant in the scheme of things but in so embarrassed about telling people at work, I'm in a relatively responsible position and it just doesn't seem to fit ridiculous I know.
I also can't imagine at this stage giving birth in front of him - the relationship is so new - again ridiculous. My mind is whirring and all these weird thoughts are running through - I can't seem to filter what is important.
I had been with DH 2 weeks when I fell pregnant. I was told I couldn't have children naturally so we weren't careful. We had been together 7 weeks when we found out! Our relationship was quite intense so it didn't really seem to be an issue for him at all as we felt we would always be together anyway. It was harder for our families to understand but they soon realised we would be fine. We didn't move in together for about 6 months though, we both had our own houses and I think that helped as I was quite tired, sick and moody and needed my own space.
He was very understanding. We didn't rush into getting married and didn't even get engaged until we'd been together over 2 years then married after 4 years. He was actually more shocked when we fell pregnant the 2nd time - he didn't speak to me for 24 hours I felt the same re giving birth in front of him but actually by the time the moment came it was fine. Also go out together as much as possible, we went to the local quiz night at the pub every week and had nights out as often as possible.
Just before my due date we went out for a really special 'last meal' also. I had been with my OH about 6 months when I fell pregnant and we are still together 5 years on Not marrried purely because I don't want to get married to anyone When I told him I immediately burst into tears and told him he could leave if he wanted to and I wouldn't hold it against him Also, my hormones went crazy and I was a teeny bit unhinged during the pregnancy, but he was endlessly patient with me because he knew from my friends that I wasn't usually like that. It will more than likely be hard but it can work, but make time for yourselves, try to have baby free nights out and stuff and just see how it goes :D.
I got pregnant two months in and we were living in different cities! I was so happy as was my DP, we had a proper deep and meaningful and agreed that we both wanted the baby and to stay together. We discussed what would happen if the relationship between us didn't work and how we would work out contact with the baby.
We are obviously still together, it's been really hard but I love him. I think when you get pregnant early on and decide to go on with it you need to be sure you can go it alone, I hope you think this is positive because I really mean it to be, I think if you are both secure in wanting the baby it will take the pressure of and actually make the relationship easier.
As for work don't give it a second thought, I'm in a similar job and everyone thought I was single so showing the scan pic round was quite fun. I really liked the one colleague who just came out and said so is the dad going to be involved? Oinkypig I actually had people ask who the father was - I would never be so bold as to ask something like that. It didn't really bother me as it was Pregnant after 3 months dating unusual situation.
Work were really supportive - you may be surprised. People have no shame! To be honest I much preferred the people who just came out and asked rather than gossiped behind my back. My direct bosses were so supportive I couldn't have asked for better. Don't know if you felt the same MrsMelons, but i just had a feeling it was the right thing. You still have to be prepared it might not go how you want but if you want it go for it.
What's the saying? You only regret the things you don't do. I was with my now DH of 10 years approx 3 weeks before I found out I was pregnant and told after numerous mc that I couldn't carry a baby full term. We had DD1 and then a mc and then 2 more DDs. We have always been open and honest with each other and dealt with the ups and downs togeather. I'm glad for us that it all worked out. Good luck and congratulations. One of the happiest marriages I know is a couple who were together 4 months when she got pregnant.
They were both about 24 and party animals. They got married when she was 5 months pregnant - with twins. Beautiful, identical girls. None of their friends had kids, they were both graduates from quite posh backgrounds so it was a bit scandalous in the world they inhabited. She was an amazing mum straight away, and breastfed her twins at the same time like she'd been doing it for years.Pregnant after 3 months dating
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