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I have zero friends and few acquaintances. My lack of friendships is making me feel inadequate. I want a group of girlfriends I can confide in and connect with — even a single friend would mean so much. I get tearful when I see groups of friends out and about. My husband always comments on my lack of friendships, which makes me feel worse. Mariella replies First, congratulations are in order. To have maintained your marriage all these years without friends to offload your frustrations on; to have raised teenagers without mates to empathise, sympathise and offer counselling, and to be a full-time worker without pals to moan to over a bottle of wine means you should be feeling very proud.
In a society in which for many of us friends are in pole position and who at times are valued even more highly than spouses is, as you identify, certainly something to mourn. At some point it has to have been a conscious decision to hunker down and go nuclear in terms of family life. A visit to your GP is a good first step. Also consider cognitive behavioural therapy, which has been proved to have a beneficial effect on everything from menopause to stress. You are clearly capable of making friends, as your school experience illustrates. Like dating, making friends involves kissing some frogs and you need to be ready to make mistakes and display vulnerabilities.
You have nothing to be ashamed of and everything to gain by stepping out of your domestic life to scout for buddies.
The world is full of people hoping and praying for connection with others, not just likes on social media. You have a job, kids and a husband, all of whom offer you an open door to making friends. You have nothing to lose and everything to gain, so stop letting your erroneous sense of shame prevent you from reaching out for that loveliest of blessings, someone who gets you. If you have a dilemma, send a brief to mariella. Follow her on Twitter mariellaf1.
Dear Mariella Relationships. To make friends you need to be ready to display your vulnerabilities, says Mariella Frostrup. Mariella Frostrup. Sun 4 Aug Topics Relationships Dear Mariella features. Reuse this content.Local lonely ready adult friendship
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